Now that I have your attention, let me tell you what I am referring to when I say make love. Dating is supposed to be fun. Some treat it like a job interview where they’re interrogating their date instead of actually listening and learning about this person. Often times there are topics that are too heavy to discuss on a first date. Such as marriage, children or no children, and oh yes the dreaded exes! We forget that this could actually be our last first date! Love is served!

Making love on a first date requires a recipe, or adding a few ingredients if you will. Here are the three ingredients you’ll need to make love on your first date! Endorphins are designed to help keep stress levels low and give us a sense of euphoria and pleasure. Before your first date you’ve gathered some information and found out that you both like being active. Set up a date involving some form of exercise. Try a nice stroll on the beach or a city bike ride. Oxytocin is your friend!

Ask questions. Listen to answers. Do you have a lot in common? On your first date talk about things that will stimulate your cerebral cortex and not your down below vortex! Avoid topics that are too heavy and may scare a person off. I’m not saying subjects that are important to you shouldn’t be discussed, but a lot of times the conversation can quickly turn into a war if the other person isn’t as passionate about beer pong as we are.

Add a dash of adventure and a smidge of adrenaline – Skydiving was the most adventurous fun I’ve had in my life thus far. It’s ok if dying while dating is not your thing, but let me suggest a date that involves a dose of adrenaline (a parachute ride, race car driving, or hang gliding). Oxytocin is a natural hormone we produce. When released it helps us to bond with each other. A date that involves some adventure will keep boredom at bay and cultivate this powerful bonding ingredient.